Friendship- pause. stop.

Has it ever occur to you that friendships, as emotional attached can one be to them, has pauses and stops? I define friendship as a constant interaction between two people, where potentially through increase interaction, have increase importance in each other life.

Its very obvious in where I live, where the D plan makes it totally possible for you to be in touch or out of touch with someone for a long time. You could be 'best' friends and keeping track with everything each other do by simply being in the same class, doing the same activities. But once the term ends, and you take different courses, you can hardly even find time to catch up when you bump into each other on the streets. Occasionally you might suggest a lunch/ or dinner. But when that happens, you have maybe 8 weeks of gap of stories to tell. Eventually, you don't even bother update each other about your life anymore.

Perhaps I should thank the frats and sororities for holding all the dance parties: it happens almost every weekend, and presumably you go every weekend, you are bound to catch up with people at least once a week. What if you don't drink as much and find the basement sketchy and stinky?

Thinking out of the Dartmouth landscape, I now have friends across the globe where I proudly claim to be good friends with. With the little chance of traveling, the time we could possible meet with each other is when I happened to be in a nearby city our country- I could fly over to visit the place , and also this friend, kill two birds with one stone. Then I find myself over the stretch of few nights, listening to stories stretching as far and 3 to 4 years back. When we finish our stories, we realized, our friendship has paused 3 to 4 years ago, and resumed for that few days. We love and appreciate each others' company but know that we will resume to the 'other' life fairly quickly as we part.

Maybe what I said is not fair to the friends who are now continents and oceans apart, where it's almost impossible to keep in touch frequently. But doesn't it make you think that,being in the same place, same city, same campus, there should be more motivation for us to keep up with friends, and depend less on coincidence?

I never stop wonder what stops us from sending that one blitz/email across for a get together or a lunch date?